As a new decade dawns, the pressure to overhaul your life via resolutions can be overwhelming. What should be an opportunity for a fresh start can become an “all or nothing” challenge that is almost guaranteed to end in failure. In fact, studies have shown that less than 25% of people actually stay committed to their resolutions after just 30 days, and only 8% accomplish them.
We say, ditch the New Year's tradition and replace it with habits that actually lead to healthy, lasting changes. Here are a few ideas to get you started.
Rewrite your story
What is the story you tell yourself? What are the limiting beliefs that are holding you back? Believing you deserve something is one of the most powerful practices you can employ for getting what you want, but often times past experiences can color your perspective and set your sights too low. Take a moment to examine what you believe to be true and false about you, your life, and your potential. Are these beliefs actually true? Why might they be false? Then, revise your story and practice saying it to yourself every day until you start to shift your mindset.
Fall in love with yourself
Look at yourself in the mirror, stare deep into your eyes, take a full belly breath, and tell yourself everything you wish someone who loves you would say about you. Not only will this teach you about what you really need from relationships (romantic or otherwise), but most of all, it will teach you what you need from the relationship you have with yourself. The more you can speak to yourself from the perspective of unconditional love, the more those powerful statements will have healing effects.
One of the major reasons resolutions fail is because they’re simply too big. Change is much easier to stomach, and much more sustainable, when it’s taken in small bites. Instead of big, sweeping changes, try setting micro-goals. For example, if your goal is to be more organized, start by making your bed every morning. Once that goal becomes a habit, incorporate another task, like tidying up your desk every night before you leave work. Slowly but surely, these habits will add up without the risk of crash and burn from transition overload.
What changes do you want to make in the New Year? Let us know in the comments below!